Posted by: Health & Lifestyle Coach Julie | 19/10/2010

Letting go of the “Righting Reflex” & Mindfulness

The “Righting Reflex” is a reflex that people have to correct someone/something. To offer advice/info/tips, etc. to correct whatever is “wrong” or “help by offering advice you would preferably do”.

This is a struggle coaches go through…”to correct” their clients vs. assessing what clients are really wanting for themselves. For clients to come up with their own goals and for them to be accountable. This in a sense, the coaches “guide” clients vs. correcting them.

Who likes to be told what to do? Not too many people. What’s the likelihood of a person changing if someone is telling you HOW to change? Wouldn’t change be more feasible if you came up with the actions yourself and someone was to help coach you in getting and staying motivated in reaching goals you, yourself have set out? This is the essence of coaching. Or this is what I’ve learned in the Intrinsic Coaching® methodology and also in Motivational Interviewing.

I learned over the years to provide straight-forward advice to a certain girlfriend. “Do as I say, I know what’s good for you” – type of advice. I’m so used to telling her right away what I think she should do. Because this relationship has been formed this way over the years, I have to admit using the “righting reflex” is second nature when it comes to interacting with her. It takes a lot of awareness and practice to be able to allow her to come up with goals she is wanting to achieve and allowing her to find ways in achieving them.

I think the sense of “awareness” is so important in so many aspects of our lives. We can only change what we are aware of. Start assessing your life and be in the present moment. If you are stuck in choosing a healthier path and don’t know how to make that next step contact me. I’ll make sure to bring my awareness with me. 🙂

Namaste (“I honor the Spirit in you which is also in me” -Deepak Chopra)

Julie Chiu, RN, MS, CHC, IC® is Hong Kong’s first and currently only medically educated and trained Certified Health Coach, Intrinsic Coach®, licensed AIH® weight management facilitator, and Intuitive Eating Pro® counselor. She is also a speaker, blogger, registered nurse (US 12+ yrs), and managing director of Mindful Eating Lifestyles Limited (MEL Ltd.).

She coaches people on making behavioral changes to improve their health and well being and frees her clients from whatever unhealthy patterns currently entrenched in.

Julie privately health coaches individuals internationally. For a free introductory phone/Skype health consultation email her for an appointment (limited time only). She also hosts Am I Hungry?® ME group workshops in Hong Kong. People are registering for the next group workshop on Tues 26 October. Interactive small group sizes. Limited class size allows for personal coaching within the group (max 8 people). Sign up today before it fills up. Registration:

For more information go to:, (become a fan of mindful eating and “Like” Mindful Eating today),, or email:

Office: Holistic Central, 16/F, Hing Wai Bldg (Coach™ building), 36 Queen’s Road Central, Hong Kong.


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